Dear Girls Of The World

If you meet a guy and ask him whether he's single or not and if he likes to go for a drink sometime, don't play the let-him-wait-for-your-response game when he actually asks you out some days later!

It might work on younger guys, but if he's halfway grown up and uses his brain it won't end well. From his perspective, the fact that you asked about his relationship status tells him that you have at least a tiny fraction of interest in getting to know each other. If he then asks you out, and you don't respond in a timely fashion, contrary to what you might expect, his interest in you will not grow but decrease rapidly. This is especially the case if you're using social networking sites for communication where everyone can see if you had a chance to read his message already and thus a chance to reply.

The following graph illustrates what happens in this case (all data was gathered solely by myself in empiric studies I did over the course of the past 4 years and carefully plotted using http://aviary.com).

If you respond after the critical timeframe and you actually meet again, he will have to build up all the interest in you again. If you're lucky he'll build up enough to agree to another date. If that's the case, I advice you to skip the let-him-wait part completely, cause if you play that card again his interest will probably vanish completely this time.

So, dear girls of the world. I don't know exactly what's the rationale behind doing what you do, but this is not a good way to get to know people. Just reply, even if you changed your mind, he won't mind. Eevery man who has at least some dignity will not fall for you when treated like that. No matter what a nice and good looking person you are.